Saturday, October 24, 2009

Ethiopia Trip

I just got back from a week in Africa. No, I wasn't there to pick up daughter no. 2....it doesn't work that quick, even with a waiting child.

What can I say about the trip that won't take two days to read? It was fabulous(as expected) and horrible (not expected). I'm not going to write a lot of detail, but in bullet point format, here is how the trip went:

The Good:

* The staff at the guesthouse were even more amazing than the last trip. It was good to see them again, and meet new ones. Because I was the ONLY person staying at the guesthouse, I certainly got individualized attention. I feel like I really got a chance to connect with each of them, and enjoyed watching them play an impromtu game of soccer and also got to sit down during staff lunch and share a meal (an ethiopian meal) with them.

* I got to go on an overnight trip to Awassa. I enjoyed a fabulous visit to the fish market. If any of you go to Awassa, you HAVE to visit this place. Monkeys eat out of your hand, and the pelicans are as big as you are. SO SO SO worth a visit.

* I got to visit Sabah's FIRST orphanage. The director was able to find her paperwork with her very first picture ever on record (that we know of). Such a special and emotional visit. I took lots of pictues of the baby room and the outside courtyard. I can't fully express what it meant to me to be there and to see this place. Ugh, bringing tears to my eyes as I type.

* I drove by the bus station where she was found. I tried to picture exactly where she might have been left and tried to imagine what her mother must have been feeling like that day. Again, very emotional.

*I got to exerience part of the Rift VAlley! THE RIFT VALLEY! One word: AMAZING. I also got to see Lake Awassa and Lake Lagano up close, as well as several other large lakes from a distance.

* I'm ready to start adoption no. 2 for a waiting child. Visiting the orphanage and seeing the older children again, has made it clear to me that this is what I want to do. Sabah will have an older sister soon (if everything works out as planned).

The Horrible:

* We were in a car accident coming back from Awassa

* My wonderful driver, Katama, hit a boy as he (the boy) darted across the HIGHWAY!

* It wasn't his fault and by the grace of God, he was able to slam on his brakes hard enough to not KILL the boy.

* I keep picturing the impact in my mind...it replays itself over and over and over

* There is no emergency service in Ethiopia. We had no choice but to put the boy in the back seat and find the nearest hospital

* The boy has a head injury and as he is drapped across my lap in the backseat, all I could do to comfort him was to stroke his cheek while holding a sweatshirt to his bleeding head.

* Ugh...hospitals in the country of Ethiopia are shall we say...different.

* In the course of waiting, at some point I hear the most horrendous moaning coming from the father. A lot of chaos follows. Lots of talking in Oromo. No one tells me anything. My driver is upset, my lawyer is crying(yes, Abebe was on the trip with us...I didn't know whether to put that in good or in horrible section). I thought the boy had died. Apparently he passed out and had to be revived.

* After three hours, the staff decides the boy should go to Addis Hospital...there is no ambulance service for this, so we have to drive him (another car/driver had been dispatched from addis to get me).

* a four hour drive back to Addis with a dying boy in the car....who is puking the whole way....not fun

* My driver is taken to prison. Like Mexico, if you get in an accident in Ethiopia, you are thrown in jail until court decides you are not guilty. He was still in prison when I left on Thursday.

* Boy goes to Addis hospital and last I heard, he was going to be ok.

* In all the comotion at the hospital, my camera was stolen from the car. I lost ALL the pictures I took of Sabah's first orphanage.

* The slamming on the brakes threw me forward and then back, so a pre-existing neck injury has flared-up like you wouldn't believe, making rest of the trip, as well as the long journey home, almost unbearable.

* the guesthouse STILL charged me for the full trip to Awassa! Unbelievable!

There were other good and other not so good things, but these were the highlights of both (good and bad). Unfortunately, I don't have any pictures to post.

I'm so thankful to live in a country that has great emergency services and a justice system that says you are innocent until proven guilty. I pray everyday for Katama. It was his first accident ever (and he's been driving for a long time). He was visibly shaken up by what happened, and I didn't get a chance to say goodby to him and to tell him that it wasn't his fault. I still don't know how he is doing....

9 comments:

Becky and Naing said...

Tania, oh my goodness. how horrible for everyone. hope your neck feels better soon. I wonder home many people get hit as they dart across the highways. So sad for the driver. Did you stay at the guest house or the new hotel?

Jennifer said...

You are right, what a horrible experience. I'm glad the boy will be okay and hope the driver is out of jail. Your poor neck. Exciting about an older sister! I can't believe how big Sabah looks already!!

Cory, Lisa, and Weredesh said...

Holy crap, Tania! GEEZ! Sounds like a REALLY bad dream! What was the reason for your visit? Did you have Sabah with you?

~ lisa

Rebecca and Andrew said...

Oh Tania, this is such a sad trip in so many ways. Katama drove for us a couple of times when Wendy couldn't towards the end of our stay. He is in our prayers and I hope he is already out and back with his family!! I will email Wendy and ask!
Andy and I are also just sick about your camera. Not being able to travel to Dessie when we went and to be able to see our children's birthplace was difficult...We can't imagine the irritation and grief you have at losing all those pictures. UGH UGH UGH!
I hope we can meet up this week for lunch or something soon! Big Hugs my dear friend! (And thanks for blogging a tidbit so we all got a chance to know a little about the trip!)

Debbie said...

Wow! I really don't know what I was expecting to hear that made part of the trip horrible, but it certainly wasn't that. Things like that certainly have a way of making us thankful for all we have here in the U.S. I hope your neck heals and if you are able to get information on the boy or your driver, I hope you'll let all of us know.

While I am certainly very sorry to hear of the accident, I am also very happy to hear of the wonderful experiences you had on this trip. I'm also very happy and excited to hear that you'll be going back for daughter #2 in the future. I'll be following your journey.

Special Delivery said...

Tania, so happy that you were able to go back and see some of the people you met the first time, the places and people that spent time with Sabah from the beginning, parts of Ethiopia that are truly marvelous! How tragic your trip also included the horrific accident. It sounds terrible and I can't imagine what that must have been like for everyone involved. Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

Colleen and JF Bertrand said...

Holy cow, Tania! I am so sorry to hear about your trip! What a sad/scary/terrible experience! I am so happy to hear that the little boy will be ok. I will keep Katama in my prayers.

It is very exciting news about Sabah having an older sister!

Joy said...

Oh my goodnes Tania - wow - that is horrible. I am sorry you lost your pictures also. As I was reading it though, I was thanking God that the accident did not threaten your life. Can you imagine - Sabah needs her mommy:). What a blessing you got to go to see her first orphanage!

Sam's mom said...

Oh no! We loved Katama. Its awful he's in jail now. He has a young wife and he is the sole income for his wife and his mother so I can only imagine the impact this is having on them. I'm so sorry you experienced this.